Dwell Time

It sort of goes against the grain, but humans are fantastic at running on the spot, making instant decisions, acting on instinct – but mostly when it’s a physical risk or danger situation. We are not so good at doing the same in a social situation. A chat in the pub, becomes an argument, then a fight breaks out because neither party was able to use their instincts in a verbal social situation, that then gets out of hand.  This is partly what makes for a wise person, not often due to the accuracy of their answers or not necessarily having a secret power to deal with things any better than anyone younger, but because wise people are more paced, and measured, and take a timely patient approach to most things (excluding rock about to hit them, or reacting to avoid a pedestrian on the road).

A good example is families feeling overwhelmed or even as if they are going insane when they have to quickly decide whether to accept or reject an offer on their home. This decision falls somewhere between a basic physical need – like choosing shelter, which we’re good at handling instinctively – and a complex social decision, for which we do not have the luxury of dwell-time.

Dwell-time itself is incredibly powerful as it allows our conscious self to better consider (which is also fed and processed at a subconscious level) to assist forming solutions or approaches to tricky on non-obvious outcomes.

Dwell-time:
Easier pace for better outcomes.
The power of simple patience.
Do less, get more.
Reflecting is a gateway to wisdom.